I believe that woman's sexuality and menstruation are undeniably intertwined. Each has a significant effect on the other. Wouldn't you say? If someone has a different experience, I hope they will share it.
Yet the menstrual phase of the cycle has been notoriously treated, as if it were completely divorced from woman's sexuality and "all that" which supposedly makes a woman either sexually attractive or agreeable to society. The menstruating woman is portrayed, when and if at all, as being anything but sexually attractive. Why even derogatory words, like lunatic and hysterical, essentially arose from woman's menstruation. In the Victorian era, doctors ascribed hysteria to the menstrual phase of a woman's cycle until the later term PMS took its place.
With such conditioning of woman being "on the rag," I found it quite interesting when an Asian porn star named May Ling Su introduced me to her menstrual celebration aspect of her work. On her website she describes her monthly sea sponge rituals and also shows erotic photographs and video clips of herself during her period, a few which are viewable to non-paid subscribers in her monthly journal section on her site: http://www.OnMyPeriod.com
Here's a woman in the industry of pornographic entertainment, writing reverently about her monthly blood flow and presenting herself as feeling sexually attractive particularly during her menstrual time. As writer, creator, producer, editor, director, graphic artist, web-developer, star, you name it of her public broadcast, this seemingly inconceivable bridging of menstruation and sexuality is possible.
What is your view on portraying menstruation and sexuality together?
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May 13 2003, 23:59:15 UTC 9 years ago
period and sexuality
ok..I was brave and I went to the website! and all I have to say is EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!! EWWWWWW!!!! and fucking EWWWWW!!!!and just ewwwwww!!!!I think the website is designed for SICK men who get off on that!Also , she is not attractive at all! She doesnt even have any boobs! I dont think she looks like a woman at all, more like a young boy!Me and my husband have sex while I am on my period all the time, I also masturbate while on my period...but I wouldnt even think of licking my vibrator all covered in blood! God how gross! Also, its alot of cleanup afterwords! And sometimes I feel like it wasnt worth all the work...lol!for me: I think that sex while on your period is not at all a fetish or kink!( just a need, like any other time) for some, I am sure it is...and I think thats what the website is designed for, NOT: a womans sexuality,or girl power or anything that we on this LJ are into!She is making money off of her period, good for her, but ya know, its just sick!May 14 2003, 18:55:49 UTC 9 years ago
Re: period and sexuality
I dont think she looks like a woman at all, more like a young boy!i don't really think it's fair to say that she doesn't look like a woman or whatever. i mean- by that standard, who is a woman and who isn't. i think that for someone who belongs to a bloodart community- [an artform that is often not taken seriously as it is] you're being pretty judgemental.
lia sea
May 15 2003, 00:30:30 UTC 9 years ago
Re: period and sexuality
well thats ok...I am pretty judgemental, when it comes to female power,my period,( especially when I am on my period...lol)art and sexuality etc... I love all the art that I have seen so far in this community, because its art, not porno, and its real female power stuff! heavy shit man...that chicks website was just plain gross! I guess sure: she is a woman, but I am just not into that whole tini- tiny little chicks that look like children thing! ...some men get off on that, and yippy for them, I dont! I am a powerfull woman and mother! I have a pre- teen daughter, and the thought that men think she is sexy or turned on by her or little girls that look like her just makes me sick to my stomach! I also think that maybe I wasnt prepared to look at that at the time...I was thinking it would be more tastefull I guess...what the hell I dont care! what ever, we can argue if you wanna...but I dont wanna! so...pthhhhbbbbbpppp!!( tounge sticking out noise)May 15 2003, 07:42:24 UTC 9 years ago
Re: period and sexuality
i don't want to argue either- i was just saying my opinion.thank-you for listening.
May 18 2003, 20:24:13 UTC 9 years ago
Re: period and sexuality
so yr saying a women isn't a REAL women unless she is all buxon like? if so than i'd say half the worlds population are sexless.she looks child like just because she doesn't have much of a chest?
have you noticed that she's asian?
asian women are generally smaller people. and that doesn't make us any less womenly or child-like.
i am offended.
May 18 2003, 23:46:09 UTC 9 years ago
Re: period and sexuality
I am sorry you are offended...I didnt mean to offend anybody. Just stating my oppinion about that web site. No, I am not saying that a person isnt a woman unless they have big boobs, just I prefer big boobs! Anyway that girl DID look child like! I have seen numerous asian women who are very womanly!nothing to do with breast size. sorry for offending anybody!May 18 2003, 23:49:33 UTC 9 years ago
Re: period and sexuality
ok.although if you go to an asian country like china or japan you you'd see that ALOT of the women there look 'child like'.... i wouldn't really use the term child like though... i'd say we're more youthful looking and age very well.
May 16 2003, 13:40:48 UTC 9 years ago
Re: period and sexuality
Interesting. EWW is the response my paintings receive on forums 9 out of 10 times. Ad hominems too.We don't know if she's making money with her site. She has put time and energy into self-producing her menstrual show and her bandwidth certainly has a cost.
Regardless of her motives, getting a sense of how comfortable she feels expressing her sexuality while menstruating is what's interesting.
May's site raises the question:
Since we feel that our menstrual cycle/menstrual blood is a beautiful, important, undivorced part of our sexuality, how can we bridge menstruation and sexuality so that they can be seen in other contexts besides bloody porn or hygene ads?
Thanks for your comments and input to this community and expressing your personal feelings about menstruation and sexuality. I appreciate it.
May 14 2003, 11:33:14 UTC 9 years ago
Anywho, back to the subject at hand,I actually am more horny when i'm menstruating. I cant go to that webstire right now, seeing that im at school and they'd get pissed at me, but i'm sure it's not that gross. I've tasted my own blood before, no big deal. A man who gets turned on by asian porn or anal porn or whatever is just as sick as a man who gets turned on by menstrual porn.
May 14 2003, 16:11:46 UTC 9 years ago
May 14 2003, 19:30:00 UTC 9 years ago
May 15 2003, 00:38:48 UTC 9 years ago
sex while on period
I agree...when I am on my period, I get sooo horney, and my husband could care less if I am on my period or not, he even licks me, as long as I have a tampon on, (I just put the string up in there)and he just doesnt put anything IN there...boy thats alot of personal info eh? we have great fun when I am on my period, and it also gives me a chance to explore him alot more, because usually we dont actually "do the deed" we just play around!sometimes if I have really bad cramps or something...then he gives me a massage, and then he is all excited and I just play with him! I dont see anything wrong with porn, unless it involves pain or rape or visual immages that are disturbing...I guess that was just disturbing to me, especially the "see me get fist fucked while I am menstruating" part! ewwwwwww!!!!